Over the years of searching through thousands and thousands
of digital photos on file, I’ve smiled at a lot of them and outright laughed at
many. Some have made me scratch my head and a few have made me shudder and hit
the delete key. Smiling around a mouthful of spaghetti is never someone’s best
moment.
But there are some that make me stop and stare for longer
than I should on a busy work day. I stare and my eyes burn a bit with tears. I
stare and the skin on my arms prickles with goose bumps. I stare and give
little pieces of my heart away. I stare as the photo tells me stories and I
remember…
Those are the best kind of photos, aren’t they?
My favorite photos might speak only to me, I don’t know. But
I want to share them with you today and tell you why I let time slip by when I
look at them.
Photo taken by staff photographer |
1.
This photo of Melissa was taken by staff when
the Culinary Arts students were visiting a professional kitchen. I wasn’t there
when it was taken, but it was sent to me following the visit. I fell in love with
the picture as soon as I opened the file. I don’t know if Melissa was preparing
her mise en place, or if she was given the pan of fruit and parsley to garnish
dinner plates, or if another student was off to the side with his carefully
filleted fish to add to the pan. I just know that the photographer managed to
capture Melissa’s sweet personality as well as her sense of pride in her
accomplishment in the moment the shutter snapped.
Photo by Ellen Cook Photography |
2.
This photo is of a bunch of college guys goofing
around and laughing - just like you would see on any other college campus. And that’s exactly what makes it so cool! I remember walking with the
photographer and her assistant on the day this photo was taken. The guys
started acting up in front of us and the photographer jumped into the fray. As
the assistant and I watched the photographer taking picture after picture of
guys being guys, the assistant turned to me and said, “This place isn’t what I
expected.” I knew what she meant by her
smile. I too once thought that a school for people with intellectual
disabilities must be a sad place, filled with struggle and hopelessness and
slow-moving people. That was before I
came to work for Shepherds. You can see by this picture that Shepherds College
is filled with students that have a good time, ham it up, exude energy, make
friends and know how to laugh. This photo challenges the stereotype of people
with intellectual disabilities.
Photo by Ellen Cook Photography |
3.
I have a love/hate relationship with the guitar.
On the hate side, I played guitar from the ages of 10 to 15 years old. My first
instructor kept telling me to “Get those
chubby fingers moving! Move those chubby little things!” No girl wants to
hear that...ever. That relationship didn’t last long. I had a crush on my next instructor
so naturally wanted to impress him. Since I didn’t have a clue what I was doing
yet, that particular goal was difficult to pull off. I knew all my tinny plink, plink, plunking on the strings
wasn’t enough to warrant a return crush. I felt deflated. My mom must have
known what was going on because one day I went to lessons and had a female
instructor. I admired her tremendously, especially her beautiful, long nails.
And that was the end of my guitar-playing years. I wanted long fingernails, I
couldn’t figure out how to press down on the strings with them like she did, so
I quit. I just didn’t have the passion to stick with it.
On the love side, my
husband is very passionate about the
guitar and plays it all the time. The instrument is as much a part of our
relationship as our kids are. When I see this picture of Sam, I see the same joy
on his face as I see in my husband.
This photo makes me feel blessed
because I’m always surrounded by beautiful music. It makes me feel disappointed
that I was too vain to continue lessons. When I look at it, I sense a guy just
loving life, content to take whatever may come. I see Sam’s personality and
skill, not his disability. This picture is like a personal, multi-faceted story told in one stunning
picture just for me.
Photo by Leibforth Photography |
4.
When Rachel first came to Shepherds, I couldn’t
get her to look me in the eye. When I
brought in a professional videographer, she couldn’t look at the camera and, in
no uncertain terms, told the videographer to leave her alone. After three years
at Shepherds College, Rachel eagerly posed for this picture. During those three
years, Rachel blossomed into a beautiful, confident young woman filled with
charm and whimsy. This picture speaks to me of growth and transformation.
5.
I’m cheating a bit on this one (see the blog on integrity). I couldn’t decide which one I loved more, and since both pictures
were taken on the same day, I thought I would just call it a tie.
Photo by Ellen Cook Photography |
These girls are Nikki and Gloria,
two of our first graduates. They were friends throughout their time here – they
loved and laughed and fought and made up. They struggled and learned and
encouraged and cried. They went through a
lot together. When I see Nikki looking up at Gloria, I imagine what she’s
silently saying to her - “We did it!” “I
love you.” “Thank you for being my friend.” “It’s over now.” “Will I see you
again?” I hear more of her heart conversation every time I look at this
picture.
Photo by Ellen Cook Photography |
And this is Brian, another of our
first graduates. I walked all over campus with the photographer on the day of
our commencement. I saw Brian’s excitement as he put on his cap and gown. I
heard him encourage his classmates in their fears and listened to him pray with
them as well. I saw his nervousness as he rehearsed his speech. He told me
about his excitement and uncertainty, but his determination to
face the future with confidence. I then saw the elation as he accepted his certificate,
and his sadness at saying goodbye to all the people he had grown close to in
his years at Shepherds College. This
photo is a beautiful collage of everything Brian was feeling that day - mixed
up, naked emotion.
I hope you saw something meaningful when you looked at these
pictures. Maybe they stirred memories or
sparked feelings or taught you something you didn’t yet know – about people
with intellectual disabilities, or even about yourself.
These pictures tell the stories of growth and
achievement and success. They are the story of Shepherds College.
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